Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Tuesday Morning Wisdom

I've been out in the garden since 5am.
My most favorite time to be in the garden.
Peace.
Coolness.
Quiet.


I found myself rushing around the house this morning in order to get out there as soon as it was light enough to see -
4:54 am.

But I was still eating breakfast and drinking my English Breakfast tea -
And then I had the crazy thought that the day was half over -
and it was 5:15am.


By 8am I am most certain that the day is half over, and I used to tell Aaron that when I home schooled him and he'd roll his eyes at me.

My Tuesday morning nugget of wisdom whilst digging out quack grass?

Being unhappy is a sickness of the spirit.
photo from cvj23.wordpress.com

I'm not talking about being unhappy cause all the $1.99 sale chicken breasts are gone from the market.

I'm talking about the real, weigh you down kinda unhappy.

I believe, much like a pain in your body is telling you that something is wrong - a pain in your spirit (unhappiness) is telling you something is wrong.

And you know what?
Unhappiness takes energy.
So does making changes to become happy.


Either way, you expend energy, so why not expend the energy you need to make the changes you need to become happy?

In my weight loss journey (a frog's breath away from 40lbs down) I find it's taking a lot of energy, that ofttimes, I really don't want to spend.
I sometimes reeeealllllyyyy  don't want to exercise.
I find that when I do, it's so much easier than scolding myself all day for not.

I find that the yoke of "I should have" is so much heavier, and requires so much more energy than "I did".  I am so much more happy with 40lbs off of my frame than I was before.  It's worth the effort, it's worth the short term pain, to enjoy long term results.

Expend the energy that's required to find your happy.
Whether it's losing weight, decluttering your house or something deeper - 
You shan't regret it.


40 comments:

  1. I really need to be exercising and stretching to help my back, but I hate doing it, so I don't. I had never though about it the way you put it this morning, though. It is easier to just do it than to wear the guilt, and literally it is easier to do it than to be in pain. Thank you for the encouragement!

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  2. Oh Jayme, what wise words you have written in this post, ones I needed to be reminded of. Thank you. Congratulations on your weight loss.
    Victoria

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  3. Hee Heee frog's breath away! I love it! So proud of you and your big loss!

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  4. I'm so hungry and could almost eat my computer screen now. :(

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  5. ..my headstone can be either--"she lived with the best of intentions"--or "life well lived". the choice is mine and today just might be the day i get to decide! think i will live this day well! thanks for the encouragement and congrats on your weight loss! good choice!

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  6. Very Well Said. You've passed me by! You'll be a skinny minny way before I get there. Save me a seat.

    So proud of you :)

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  7. I had a dream this weekend that my sissy (Di) and I visited you and stayed at your house. So thanks for your hospitality:-) And this posting inspires me to get busy losing some pounds. Maybe I should find a coach to push me harder than I can push myself.

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  8. Thanks for pointing that out. It's much worse running around feeling quilty all day than just doing it! I needed that reminder.

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  9. Your flowers are just beautiful and those strawberries...YUM!

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  10. WOW, If I had a garden like that I don't think I would get much house work done. I too would want to be in that garden all day. I LOVE the vine you have growing around the roof line of the shed.

    Jayme, you are doing an awesome healthy way of losing so be proud of yourself, dance around and jump for joy and know we are doing the same with you each pound you lose.

    Unlike those unrealistic shows on TV of rapid weight loss. When they do not lose weight on their weekly weigh-in...someone gets the boot. You have to remember that muscle weights more then fat, so its not that they did not lose weight, they were building healthy muscle but that is not thrown into the equations but only denotes failure and they get the boot.. Great for ratings but its not normal life. 5+ hour a day workouts... I doubt many can do that in the real world. Keep up your real world weigh loss journey Jayme... you are an inspiration.

    Why is it we have to struggle so hard to have think positive. WE control our own thoughts so gal, keep up the good work and know we are all thinking, praying and wishing you the best in all aspects of your life.

    God bless and keep you and your family safe.

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  11. well, jayme, my tennessee "cousin", i REALLY needed to hear this this very morning. i have been DISCOURAGED and dragging around this feeling and it has been draining me!! i'm down almost 30 pounds, but i have been stuck a bit and it is WEARYING me with disappointment! my husband and i are both on this "CHANGE OUR BODIES AND OUR LIVES" program and he is leaving me in the dust (as usual)and i have a sister who is also leaving me in the dust and i just get really really down about it - maybe just jealous!!!! it has always been "more challenging" for me to lose weight it seems, but i AM very determined. i needed a word of encouragement and THERE YOU ARE!!! thank you, jayme. may the LORD BLESS YOU!!
    love
    debylynne

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  12. Thanks! I needed that post. :)

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  13. I always tell myself.."If it was easy everyone would be doing it" when it comes to most things...and that is what gives me inner happiness..knowing I am taking care of myself.

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  14. Hmmmmmmm 5am, I should try harder to get outside at that time. Wonderful words of wisdom that I NEED to hear, I'm having trouble motivating myself to lose weight. But of course your words are useful in many other areas, thanks for taking the time to share.

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  15. Gardening is exercise and it looks to me like you've b een getting a lot of it!

    Bur, I know what you're saying. We all have our regrets and personally, I would rather regret something I've done... than something I could have done, but didn't.

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  16. IT's raining outside again here in Iowa and I now have time to check on the blogs t as that I follow. I really enjoyed what you were saying this morning about having the right attitude in daily living. I choose to be happy in life as it takes so much energy to be negative.. Who really likes to be around someone that is dragging their dead cat around and expecting everyone to pet it..not me. Have a Tiggeriffic ~! ta ta for now from Iowa:)

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  17. What an awesome post - truer words have yet to be spoken.

    Yes to all of it.. absolutely. And YOU GO GIRL!!. .40 lbs, holy cow!

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  18. Forgot to ask, what are you eating with the strawberries? Looks good.

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  19. I really needed to read your wisdom. Thank you Jayme

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  20. Jayme, you are such an inspiration. You go girl!

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  21. This is the most beautiful post I have read all day. All week. All month. Ever.

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  22. Jayme, congrats on your losses. That is awesome!! This is the most encouraging post I have read in awhile. What great advice - it should be obvious, but somehow the happy gets overlooked a LOT! Thank you! Have a wonderful remainder of the week. -Tammy

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  23. You shan't regrettttt itttttt! (Said in my best Oprah yell.)

    You be wise, Aib.

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  24. Are you eating anything??? law.

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  25. Your doing wonderful on your weight loss.. Thank you for your words of wisdom.. Funny how we know all this stuff but until we actually hear it spoken we forget!!! Starting today I will not be talking myself out of my daily walks anymore!! Thank You!!!

    Patra

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  26. Awesome post and so nicely said! We all need this reminder every now and then!

    Congrats on your weight loss!

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  27. Your CONEFLOWER is blooming already!! Whaaaa!! Mine are only about 6" tall for cryin' out loud!! And yes Missy...you're doing mahvelous on your W.L.! I'm prouder than a bullfrog of you! THURSDAY...don't forget! ;)

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  28. you're chinkin' it off a pound at a time and with it worries and insecurities and a big case of the "I can'ts" is GONE. Mrs. Goffin is now capable...of whatever the day brings. Even if it starts early and stays late she is present with her hand raised in the air. "Pick me, pick me!" she says to life...

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  29. I want to sit in your yard.....beautiful! Good job miss skinny!I be proud of you.

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  30. I love mornings too! Congrats on your weight loss efforts. I used to be so faithful to exercise...but now I know I was just avoiding the sadness of that time of my life. When I return to regular exercise...I want it to be healthy. Not too much...but just right. (I used to work out 2 hours a day! Not good.) I've always been happiest when my exercise was part of my "doing things around the house"...like gardening! I love your garden...and the garden is very peaceful early in the morning!
    Blessings,
    Courtney

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  31. Right on Sister. The part about "I did over I should have", weighs on your mind and your soul for much longer. And it is worth the effort. I always, always forget, although you'd think I'd remember by now, that when those endorphins kick in after exercising, it's the best feeling ever. I feel like I can take on the world. 40lbs is awesome! I'm shedding some too, 20% of final goal reached. : )

    OH! Bees came home last night and I introduce them to their new home in a few hours. Oy!

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  32. For me to feel good I need to be accomplishing something and you are right... whatever energy I have is best used "doing," but sometimes I feel so low the energy I can rustle up is just enough to deal with basics. I'm hoping that if the sun ever shows up and it gets warm out that my mood will lift. Oh, well, I'm going to make cottage pie for dinner... maybe that will help. Enjoy your beautiful garden!

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  33. What is that on the dish with the strawberries??

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  34. You are so smart, Keepster. Very smart and wise indeed.
    Have fun tomorrow. Oh, I know you will!
    Miss ya, Coop!

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  35. Right on target with your words there!! Hopefully you will keep inspiring us all with your "pearls"!! We all know them--just helps to here them again once in awhile!!

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  36. Since I'm soooo not a morning person, I'm in awe of your being out in the garden before 5AM!!
    congratualtions on the weight loss!

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  37. Thanks for sharing. I was a little down as well over the weekend cause I lost five pounds and promptly gained it back over the holiday:/ I figure it can only get better ! Im not starting over I am just doing better.

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  38. Couldn't have said it any better. I just had a phone call a few minutes ago from a dear friend who told me she is retiring in July... at the age of 46. She's soooo happy and I was ecstatic for her. She's found her happy and it totally put a smile on my face. Happiness is infectious!

    Di

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  39. 40 lbs down!! That's brilliant! Congratulations!! Will you be sharing before and aft pics?!? (Or at least aft pics?)

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  40. This view of your garden is simply lovely. Congrats on your loss - lbs. Our heat has been terrible with high humidty so early mornings are all I can stand. I love the sounds of early morning.
    Kathy

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