tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post1513977927223796842..comments2024-01-28T02:19:35.150-06:00Comments on Tales from the Coop Keeper: Ponder ThisJayme Goffin, The Coop Keeperhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16760868033826492236noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-66934656972531554732011-12-16T21:13:36.016-06:002011-12-16T21:13:36.016-06:00I hesitate to write this....but I love you and and...I hesitate to write this....but I love you and and I know you love me (even though I've been a hair less than loveable lately), so I'll just say it.<br /><br />All the stuff you said there at the end, THAT is why I think I can't lose weight. Why I've never kept weight off when my body used to lose weight fairly easily. It sounds like you're still in bondage to FOOD. My goal has been to not be in bondage or live in fear of food. The only person I've found who's done that is Geneen Roth, and if I can't do it like she did/does, I just plain out refuse to do it.<br /><br />I know all the science behind why we should and shouldn't eat what-have-you...but for me, peace will only come when I make peace with myself and food. I can't just say 'no cookies' or 'salad everyday for lunch'. I want to ask my body what it needs and wants, and give that to it as a loving mama to her child. To savor and eat slowly enough to be aware when my body says "all done now". <br /><br />I want to eat like a skinny person eats...or as someone who doesn't have issues with food. I don't want to live in fear of eating the wrong thing, too much, or not enough. I want to eat deliciously, decadently, and only what my body wants. The wee little bit I did do that, 25 pounds dropped off me without trying. I exercised 15-30 minutes a day and ate whatever my heart desired. Mostly. :)<br /><br />After a while it didn't work because of medical issues, and I got too busy getting into my head instead of staying tuned to my body's voice. Too much striving, too much beating myself up for not losing fast enough. Trying too hard. Not living in the present enough. <br /><br />Anyway, I'm wicked proud of you, but my heart lurches when I recognize the same thought patterns you're having. I think you're right to ask yourself hard questions about your identity as 'Mrs. Claus', but the longing I hear for sweets or pizza, the resignation I hear when you can't eat pizza, I don't know....it just doesn't sound like a place I want to go back to. That means I'll either stay fat and lethargic or I'll somehow learn to love myself enough to listen intently to what my body really wants, and listen to when it says 'not this, it makes me feel yukky', listen to when it says 'organic chocolate would be divine', listen to when it says 'now I'm done'...even after just one bite. This has actually happened in the last year, fleetingly, but it did happen, and I'm determined to learn to listen and honor this human frame that's bore me six healthy kids and is cherished by my hubs.<br /><br />HOpe I've not offended. You know how much I love love love you.cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11231641398378820087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-48237978397956643302011-12-16T10:39:44.904-06:002011-12-16T10:39:44.904-06:00Here is my take on it. I am exactly in the same p...Here is my take on it. I am exactly in the same place as you. I cannot be around sweets, period. If I bake cookies, I always eat one batch myself bake another to serve. I read your blog because I feel that we are walking the same path and you encourage me daily. <br /><br />As a homemaker, cooking and baking is how we show our love. I was the mom that baked Christmas cutout cookies for weeks, freezing, decorating, and delivering. We made it a December tradition. I would bake breads, cookies, cakes, and candy daily and give as gifts. A few years ago, after gaining 30 pounds, I decided that I would stop baking. It is hard on the family but believe me, we don’t need the extra calories. I find now that I get my worth by other things, like decorating the house and garden. If the kids needed a treat, I would take the kids out for sweets and make a date of it. If someone came over with a plate of cookies, I would graciously thank them and as soon as they left, I would toss the cookies in the garbage outside (not in the house, too tempting). It is like you said, would you give an alcoholic a bottle of booze for Christmas? I think not.<br /><br />Anyway, thanks for the daily encouragement. I look forward to it. And, keep up the good fight. It has paid off. You are more than a plate of cookies.. <br /><br />Sending you much love and happiness.macynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-39719822029560999482011-12-15T22:38:22.850-06:002011-12-15T22:38:22.850-06:00Diddo what Janie Fox said!!Diddo what Janie Fox said!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08888669064467961669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-11155697978925069352011-12-15T22:34:48.349-06:002011-12-15T22:34:48.349-06:00Darn it...
You had me at the first word of your t...Darn it...<br /><br />You had me at the first word of your title. PONDER. And now I'm going to be doing just that all day tomorrow as I WAS planning to be baking all day.<br /><br />Cookies or no cookies - you're still the best...I'm sure of it.<br /><br />One question. So, can you say in your "about me" (on the sidebar) section that you (still) live in your apron? Cuz if not...I'll wear mine tomorrow and think of you.<br /><br />Have a Blessed Christmas, my friend. BTW: I love your skinny tree.Bevy @ Treasured Up and Ponderedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15821971923515558110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-31837545580808961122011-12-15T21:41:37.411-06:002011-12-15T21:41:37.411-06:00I haven't baked a cookie. I feel obligated for...I haven't baked a cookie. I feel obligated for the sake of my kids, but I haven't done it. Instead, I've been burning candles called "Grandma's Cookies" and "Pumpkin Spice" and you know what? My house smells Christmasy and my kids are happy because I'm sitting on the floor playing Uno. So don't worry about the baking. Just give folks your time and your smile. Cookies? What cookies? I'm letting my sister do the baking. I had a couple. They were yummy. But I'm not going to make them because I'll just eat them. And that's half the battle won, in my book. P.S. You look FABULOUS. Merry, merry Christmas!!Jenniferhttp://www.farmgirlfollies.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-65139526202489155932011-12-15T20:27:49.824-06:002011-12-15T20:27:49.824-06:00Your friends and family want to be with you becaus...Your friends and family want to be with you because of who you are not because of what you bake. The "who" you are is a caring, generous, loving person with a zest for life... someone who wants to share the good in life. Be you! Be happy! Merry Christmas!Callie Bradyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16379683295150396693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-53482831171173367722011-12-15T20:19:01.712-06:002011-12-15T20:19:01.712-06:00I struggle with the same thoughts when having frie...I struggle with the same thoughts when having friends or family over for a visit. We try to eat wholesome foods and have no 'junk' in the house. So why do I feel like I need to purchase sodas and 'junk' when having company because if it's not all eaten before the company leaves, guess who's eating it? But, like you, I want to make everyone happy and like me.<br /><br />You made an excellent point though, about it not being our job to make others happy! Especially by contributing to bad eating habits.<br /><br />Look at the no-bake Christmas this way... you'll have more time for your Random Acts of Kindness and more to time relax and enjoy your family and the BoyChild rather than spending it in the kitchen!Gone Countryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02044426675150865698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-21958509278699155572011-12-15T19:04:37.139-06:002011-12-15T19:04:37.139-06:00I'm admitting right here and now that I've...I'm admitting right here and now that I've repinned photos from your blog onto my Pinterest! People really like your Missouri photos!Jayhawk Fanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13843292378508877860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-73243366987702561112011-12-15T17:50:22.849-06:002011-12-15T17:50:22.849-06:00I got an unexpected jump start on my weight loss a...I got an unexpected jump start on my weight loss after our house was broken into. Always one to take advantage of stress dieting, I used my new shrunken tummy to embark on healthier eating. I'm doing pretty well, but I do wish I could bake up a batch of cookies. But, I won't. Hold fast. Get a little fun bling (it doesn't have to be jewelry--bling is different for each person!) and just enjoy people. Above all, be true to yourself. I like that I can actually bend over without the belly getting in the way!! LOL<br />Blessings and hugs!Sassafras and Winterberryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15153493021653446039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-50161761325665844932011-12-15T17:33:36.745-06:002011-12-15T17:33:36.745-06:00I would say you have the spirt of true christmas. ...I would say you have the spirt of true christmas. It is not about the decorations, cookies,, or gifts bought. I am talking about the love with out the extras. the 50 random acts of kindness. Wishing you the joy in your heart you are giving to others.<br />Cathyacorn hollowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10503414190541111706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-30604370081448945862011-12-15T17:16:24.442-06:002011-12-15T17:16:24.442-06:00You don't need to bake because you ARE the swe...You don't need to bake because you ARE the sweet in that house. amen.Janie Foxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12370820382435543544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-42655049240665144172011-12-15T16:12:07.421-06:002011-12-15T16:12:07.421-06:00For this very reason I no longer bake...the baking...For this very reason I no longer bake...the baking thing was part of Christmas...my mother and father both baked at Christmas! Young adult thinks Christmas is partly about baking...cookies, pies, cakes, bread...much older adult is tired of losing the same weight over and over and over again. So like you I've shifted my problem over to those who used to expect me to bake...now my son bakes and is just a "TAD" overweight! Wow look at me I passed the baking/weight issue right on down the line!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-2477090199294247932011-12-15T15:15:27.465-06:002011-12-15T15:15:27.465-06:00Too many people in America "love" their ...Too many people in America "love" their families into obesity!Jayhawk Fanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13843292378508877860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-86891260132331141772011-12-15T14:44:22.160-06:002011-12-15T14:44:22.160-06:00Food is definitely an addiction. It's my go-to...Food is definitely an addiction. It's my go-to when I'm at an emotional low. I get it totally. So no, I wouldn't tell my alcoholic cousin to serve drinks at his party because everyone ELSE would like a drink. It's too much to ask. Serve up the fruit platters.. stay away from the sugar, girl. You've come WAAAY TOOO FAR to tempt yourself in such a big way now.Karen thisoldhouse2.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03302171590212119499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-33938791089908900142011-12-15T14:31:32.557-06:002011-12-15T14:31:32.557-06:00You alredy know that Aaron loves you no matter wha...You alredy know that Aaron loves you no matter what. And the new BIL has to know the journey you've been on this past year. Just tell them that as much as you'd love to smother them with sugary confections, it just can't happen for your own sanity and salvation. I'm sure they'll tell you that they'd be appalled if you fell off the wagon on their behalf. <br /><br />You've done good this year, Jayme. Hang on.Florida Farm Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14788091314337673170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-9343372028923578812011-12-15T14:24:08.120-06:002011-12-15T14:24:08.120-06:00When you lose weight you get a whole new perspecti...When you lose weight you get a whole new perspective on life as you change, this is what you are going through and will continue to for some time to come. But don't forget the simple joys of just making someone feel special by doing something for them.... in the end you too get that warm feeling.<br /><br />I am baking garlic/onion rolls and cookies for my brother that is coming for a visit, I know it will make him feel special that I went through the trouble. He said I do not have to, but it just makes me feel good doing it for him. Yes the house smells yummy and I know how good they taste. Do I want them, NO... I am finally happy knowing that I know they taste good but I do not need them to feel happy. I will smile as he moans with delight eating them, I will get much more pleasure from that than a few extra calories in my system. <br /><br />GOD bless you and your journey, Its quite a trip huh?Tammy@Simple Southern Happinesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01027582211262125136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-49319673767352544982011-12-15T13:17:39.373-06:002011-12-15T13:17:39.373-06:00I know...I really do...I know...I really do...Cait Throophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00424249114747773949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-86455956425372362642011-12-15T13:14:28.626-06:002011-12-15T13:14:28.626-06:00People may "like" us for what we do for ...People may "like" us for what we do for them, but that definitely isn't love. Will those around you miss the great treats that you have made for them in the past, yes, but will it change how your loved ones and true friends feel about you, no! I have so much fun just reading your blog and can imagine that it is twice as fun to be with you in person. Just enjoy your company and they will enjoy you!Mary Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06623042998380529619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-66345116265315888312011-12-15T13:12:58.350-06:002011-12-15T13:12:58.350-06:00Aaron will always love you. As the saying goes: ...Aaron will always love you. As the saying goes: "To know you is to love you." Rejoice in the new you. I haven't baked candy or cookies in years. That's just the way it is. My daughter baked cookies on Monday. I have not touched them. Of course my downfall is dips! Cream cheese anything!! I am trying to live by the motto...."in moderation". I'll let you know how that goes for me!! <br />By the way....will you be sharing your ideas for your 50 things? Your awesome....so very cool!!Amy B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08316300779416669476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-48675165671778566842011-12-15T12:56:41.510-06:002011-12-15T12:56:41.510-06:00You are beaming with joy, light and happiness! Yo...You are beaming with joy, light and happiness! Your transformation is absolutely beautiful, inside and out. You don't need to feed people cookies! Just being around you is a treat in itself! Quit worrying and enjoy this glorious time of the year!Cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11851153312761248525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-49454987203909294602011-12-15T12:48:00.753-06:002011-12-15T12:48:00.753-06:00Put away the flour, Cousin Susie. There's so m...Put away the flour, Cousin Susie. There's so much to love about you w/o it.Shannan Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06240696987027358314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-3180051039884670982011-12-15T12:46:20.036-06:002011-12-15T12:46:20.036-06:00Jayme, I know it's not easy honey. But be stro...Jayme, I know it's not easy honey. But be strong. I am sure your family loves you without cookies. Just give them sweet hugs and kisses instead of candies. Smiles, SusieSusiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06425051654313691986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-38728986693327917152011-12-15T12:20:32.869-06:002011-12-15T12:20:32.869-06:00Jayms, your logical self knows the truth, but I to...Jayms, your logical self knows the truth, but I totally relate with your emotional self. If only it were as easy as baking for others and not eating, but we both know that's often not possible. You need to make the choices that are best for you, and work for your new lifestyle and as everyone else has already said, those who love you will continue to love you- cookies and pies be damned.<br /><br />Love you girl- Merry Christmas xox<br /><br />ChrisYour Canadian friendnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-86475205371800700212011-12-15T11:29:21.957-06:002011-12-15T11:29:21.957-06:00My Grandmother, who was a cookie-baking, candy-mak...My Grandmother, who was a cookie-baking, candy-making machine...in later years after struggling with her weight all her life finally lost weight. She kept in her pantry, just for company the finest cookies, candies and confections that you could buy. No one ever left her house without feeling that they were the most special person on Earth! Two words, Harry&David... or is that three words?Joy Tiltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04183952085695405635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1220470666707560125.post-75625975344724121722011-12-15T11:24:14.127-06:002011-12-15T11:24:14.127-06:00Jayme girl...I'm with ya...When I bake...I am ...Jayme girl...I'm with ya...When I bake...I am SO tempted...and I am very very cautious to KNOW my limits...the line I should draw and NOT cross over. I figure the ONLY way I can bake for others right now is to be doing it for a function. That way it is Bake, Take, and DON'T bring back any leftovers...or alas, I will sneak bites...just happened with a chocolate sheet cake I made for Kam...his favorite...If it's not around, I won't eat it. And that proves to me I am not titanium steel in my willpower yet! so I have to take extra measures right about now at Christmas time, the BUSIEST time of the year for me (usually) in making GOBS of wicked high caloried goodies. It seems sad because I want to make trays for my vet, mailman, ups, neighbors, school, church, etc...but I need to stay on track - feeling the need to NOT bake this year...and so...I shan't!<br />(sweet things anyway!) Glad I checked in here to read your post. It encourages me. Hugs to you girl, keep on...keep on....keep on. xoxoxoJuliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11503664045488972731noreply@blogger.com